Humane Research Council did a study in which they outlined a bunch of useful stats on veganism/vegetarianism. One of the things they pointed out was that 63% of former vegans/vegetarians didn't like how they stuck out in the crowd.
So I thought I'd write about how not to stand out in the crowd.
1. Don't intentionally stand out. This one is obvious, but, if you've gone veg for animal reasons maybe you feel like you need to defend animals at all times. I have a closet full of pro-animal shirts, but I only wear them when that's who I want to be. Sometimes I'm out wearing a pro-animal shirt and I stop feeling like being a spectacle, so I turn the shirt inside out, and voila, I'm normal.
it's within your rights to say "na, I just eat like one"
At the restaurant, make it out like holding the cheese is a specific request and avoid using the word 'vegan'. If you need to know whether something has meat or cheese, by all means ask, but act as though you're just not in the mood tonight.
3. Practice. It's really not hard to blend in, once you start learning how. If your meals are always about veganism, try going out with omni acquaintances once and challenge yourself to keep it a secret.
4. Hang with veg friends. Community support and social pressure are incredibly powerful forces. If you've never been together with a group that is all vegan, you don't know what you're missing! The social reinforcement is well worth getting out to that meetup, conference, or retreat.